Many of us would probably tell ourselves today: “If I had this same mentality when I was younger I would’ve prevented myself from making this mistake.” The truth is that we had the same mentality, but we weren’t listening to what we really needed. But now that we were struck, we’re listening.
There was always a person in our life who always wanted the “best” for us but failed to guide us because we both wanted different things. We couldn’t communicate. Instead of explaining what we want and working on getting that, we try to please them instead and do it their way then fail in that, leading to a huge gap in the relationship and losing self-confidence. So we seek other people who support our decisions or emotions and who turn up to be the ones feeding on our weaknesses in order to control us. A husband for example who acts like a caring partner and who seems to understand how you never got the attention you needed when you were back home is the same person who reminds you of how bad you were raised when you do something that did not please him which is why you never get anything right. Or maybe a mother who never had the chance to be a doctor herself and tries to push you to become one and when you fail to please her, setting your dreams aside to put hers first, you become a disappointment.
You grow older thinking you never did anything right and have no motivation or are scared the change will be overwhelming, when in fact you did nothing wrong and it is never too late to try anything you want to try. It is just that you were neither surrounded by the right people nor the right circumstances. If people keep telling you that you are a failure then you’ll simply believe that you are one. Therefore…
Surround yourself with people who inspire you and lift your spirit. People like these will choose their words wisely before criticizing you. People who really care about you would never hurt you intentionally. I’m telling you this from experience.
- Stay away from toxic people.
- Do the things you love. Even the little things.
- If you need self-help books to get inspired then start reading.
- Believe in yourself.
- Don’t lie to yourself. You can’t forgive everyone that hurt you but you can make sure that they never hurt you again. You are now aware and wise and are ready to move on…
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